Adele’s life looks super glam from the outside looking in. But you’d be surprised to know, like us, she battles the pressures of work life overtaking her personal life.
In an exclusive interview with Vanity Fair, Adele gets in-depth and blunt. She shares her thoughts on everything from motherhood to phone addiction. She has her priorities in check. She is true to herself and is not at the mercy of anyone.
Check out my takeaways from her Vanity Fair interview. You’ll admire her confidence even more (I promise).
She knows when she needs to open up and talk.
While pregnant with her son, Adele knew she needed to talk to likeminded people for her sanity. “I was gravitating towards pregnant women and other women with children, because I found they’re a bit more patient, ” she tells Vanity Fair. “I knew I could just sit there and chat absolute mush with my friends who had children, and we wouldn’t judge each other.”
She recognizes when to take time out to take care of herself.
After her son was born, Adele decided she would put herself first. “Eventually I just said, I’m going to give myself an afternoon a week, just to do whatever the f*** I want without my baby. A friend of mine said, ‘Really? Don’t you feel bad?’ I said, I do, but not as bad as I’d feel if I didn’t do it,” she says. “Four of my friends felt the same way I did, and everyone was too embarrassed to talk about it; they thought everyone would think they were a bad mom, and it’s not the case. It makes you a better mom if you give yourself a better time.” Adele says.
She puts her passion above her money.
When it comes to her performances and shows, she never overworks herself for the money. Adele explains, “I’d still like to make records, but I’d be fine if I never heard [the applause] again. I’m on tour simply to see everyone who’s been so supportive. I don’t care about money. I’m British, and we don’t have that . . . thing of having to earn more money all the time. I don’t come from money; it’s not that important a part of my life. Obviously I have nice things, and I live in a nicer area than I grew up in. That was my goal from the age of seven: it was ‘I ain’t living here.’ I didn’t care how I was getting out, I didn’t care where I’d be living, but I knew I wasn’t living there. I love being famous for my songs, but I don’t enjoy being in the public eye. I love to make music, and I love doing shows, and I needed to go back to work—not for money but because something was missing. I wasn’t creating music. But there is such a massive difference between what I do for my work and what I do in my real life. I don’t think anyone should be famous for going to a grocery store or a playground.”
She’s in favour of the unplugged life and being present.
For Adele, shows are about being present and appreciating the music. “People would rather have a photo to show to people than actually enjoy a moment,” she says. “It’s weird—when I first started out, nearly 10 years ago, no one had their phones out. I’d go onstage to people. Now I go onstage to 18,000 phones. It’s pretty because of the lights . . . but no one is actually looking at the world—they’re on their phones all the time.
Being around positive and strong women are her lifesavers
Adele says, “Every day as I get older, I appreciate women more and more. When you’re between the ages of 15 and 19, maybe you see women as competition, as opposed to lifesavers and people that hold your hand and have experienced pretty much everything that you have. So the more women in my life the better.”
Her love life is solid.
She never has to worry about her boyfriend leaving. “I have no desire to be with anyone in show business, because we all have egos. He’s not threatened by any stage of my life that I’m going for, and that’s an amazing thing. It’s the most serious relationship I’ve ever been in; we’ve got a child together and we live together,” she explains. “After releasing my first album, all the other people I ever was with were so insecure about themselves—they couldn’t handle it at all. When I try to describe this to my friends they don’t always get it, because they go out with people that are our age, but Simon is already who he is, and I’m still becoming who I’m going to be. He’s confident. He’s perfect.”
She’s a pro at managing her emotions.
“The music I’ve always been drawn to is sad. I’ve always been pretty melancholy. Obviously not as much in my real life as the songs are, but I have a very dark side. I’m very available to depression. I can slip in and out of it quite easily. It started when my granddad died, when I was about 10, and while I never had a suicidal thought, I have been in therapy, lots. But,” she emphasizes, “I haven’t had that feeling since I had my son and snapped out of my postpartum depression.” What about all the old boyfriends who were the subjects of her earlier heartbreak songs? “There’s a reason I loved them once,” she says, “and for a while hate got in the way. But I’m an adult now, I’m a mother, and I’m a lot less bi***. They were interesting people, and while we’re not friends and I don’t see them regularly, I have seen them and it’s all fine.”
Her views on work-life balance are #goals.
Adele expresses, “All of my relationships are more important to me than any tour I’ll ever do. If my relationship with Simon or my relationship with Angelo started to flounder a bit now, I would pull out of my tour. My life is more important to me than anything I’m doing because how the f*** am I supposed to write a record if I don’t have a life? If I don’t have a real life, then it’s game over anyway.”
What can we say? Without a doubt, Adele is a strong woman, who knows what’s important to her and she shows it in all aspects of her life. You can check out the full interview here.
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